Thursday, November 19, 2015

Guest Post: I Am More Than My Body with Emily Johnson

It's been a long time since I've had a guest post on here, but I'm incredibly excited to share this one in particular today. My friend Emily and I met in college, and we immediately bonded over a shared love of reading blogs and thrifting while surrounded by a sea of apathetic fashion merchandising students. Emily is one of those people who is charming and delightful to everyone she meets, myself included. So when she contacted me about looking for a platform to share this short essay she wrote, I wanted to help for a few reasons: 1. Emily is one of the most genuinely kind and creative people I've ever known, 2. She is a captivating writer, and 3. The contest she originally wrote this for is for inspiring retreat, and it (along with Emily's words) is something that I fully support. So now, please meet and become absolutely endeared my beautiful friend Emily.

Greetings and Salutations!

I’m Emily Johnson. And before you fall in love with me, I don’t have a blog for you to stalk like I assume most guest posters do. So, if you like what I say…that’s awesome. And I like you for liking it! You’re seriously cool. But unfortunately I’M not as cool or put together as my g-friend Elana to have the talent to create something like this. I just like to write. So, I wrote something for you. Well, technically I wrote something as an entry for this contest I’m entered in (you see what I’m getting at here...) Yes, this is kind of a shameless plug for you to vote for me in my dream-come-true contest. But at the same time, it’s really, really not. I wrote this essay by mistake, thinking the contest sought a 500 word submission. Funny story: 500 words and 500 characters are two VERY different things. Anyway, so I’m writing this essay all weekend only to find out it’s going nowhere. And this saddened me. So I said, ‘HEY ELANA. I’ve got something to say and nowhere to say it. Remember when we were friends in college? You still like me right?’ And, because Elana is a SAINT (seriously, you guys…this girl is unreal IRL), she let me guest post. And that’s the drawn out story of why I’m talking to you right now. Thanks for listening. And if you’ve made it this far, I encourage you to keep reading — because it only gets better from here.

Here is my message for you today. It's about misinterpretation. It's about understanding. And most importantly — it's about loving your ridiculously beautiful, powerful, badass, womanly body.

I am more than my body.

You may see this as an unremarkable realization and if so, I admire your strength in the face of modern adversity. Because though it may seem like an indisputable notion to many, and though my perpetually blithe demeanor conceals the injury — my self-image has taken a beating. In a digital dating age where potential suitors cloaked in distance and a lack of repercussion remark solely on your body, it’s difficult to remember your emotional and intellectual worth. These remarks, said with intention to compliment, miss their mark every time. Instead these venomous misconceptions seep into the psyche, slowly poisoning one's self-image, and remolding it into the projection of another’s sexual interest. Our personal worth becomes based on our ability to physically appeal. We are objectified and, in turn, we begin to identify with the object. We point to the flaws that we believe, if removed, would make us more sexually appealing.

But the truth is: we have no physical flaws — the flaw is in our perspective.

Society has taught us that to be desired we must modify our bodies, sometimes by taking drastic measures. Why is this? After all, who decided that skinny meant beautiful? That things needed to be concealed by concealer? That body hair was unhygienic and unattractive? I mean, shit – who are these almighty determiners of beauty? Because I’d like to have a word with them…followed by more words and a swift slap to the face.

In reality, my body is nothing but a vessel. A beautifully unique vessel. A physical place to store my metaphysical being. The way I look shouldn’t determine my worth when the way I look has little to do with who I am or what I have to offer the world. My body should be celebrated as an addition to my beauty, not as the reason for it.

And that is why I am so eager to be a part of Elizabeth’s ‘Wildbride’ project. I want to celebrate my body for the first time in this new light. To be in the wilderness among bitchin’, like-minded ladies who will support these beliefs and provide further empowerment. I have been ashamed of what is nothing more than the tangible representation of myself for too long, and it’s time I embraced the truth: I am SO MUCH more than my body.

Thank you for reading. If this resonated with you at all, then I’ve done what I came to do.

And if you dig my vibes, please send a vote my way. I’d really appreciate it!

Maybe see you again?

Monday, November 16, 2015

Early Bird

I don't have much time to type because I have to go to sleep early, but I still wanted to upload a quick post. Although I can't say that I'm ecstatic about part of the reason why my bedtime has to be early for some reasons, it's actually a great thing. I'm taking on some new, exciting responsibility starting Monday (today as you're reading this) which requires me to work new hours. You see, I'm accustomed to working strange hours now, however, my current hours are later than most. I usually work 11 a.m. to 8 p.m., which has its perks -- mostly waking up at my leisure and enjoying my coffee before work. Now, I'll be working insanely early hours rather than late: 6 a.m. to 3 p.m. The waking up 4:30 a.m. is going to, well, suck, but I'm excited to have my afternoons finally eat dinner at a normal hour again. No more making my friends wait until 9 p.m. to do anything, no sir. 

When I'm not working, I'm doing things like watching With Bob and David (the not quite Mr. Show revival on Netflix) with Jon on Saturday and wearing this pretty lace dress to visit with my parents on Sunday. I picked up this dress at a thrift store when I hung out with Erica a little while ago, and it's become a favorite. I even had a woman in my office stop to me say that it was "stunning." Well, fancy lawyer lady who works down the hall, I would have to agree with you.

Thursday, November 12, 2015


Could this skirt be any dreamier? I've been eyeing it online for too long, and I finally got it with a discount from work a month or so ago. Kling has become one of my absolute favorite brands, which I've spent far too much time stalking when I'm supposed to be working. I spend all day drooling over expensive clothes at my job so it's always nice to distract myself with brands that are at least a little more in price range. Of course, my price range is nonexistent now that it's essentially the holiday season. With my family (including three brothers, two sister-in-laws, parents, and five nieces and nephews), plus best friends, Jon, and gift exchanges, I have too many people to buy for. Add in that I'm paying more bills this year than ever before, and I may just be in deeper than I can handle. The worst part? I still insist on buying everyone thoughtful gifts. I can't break the habit. I even signed up for the Reddit Secret Santa because I love the idea of buying a random person a gift they'll love, even though I can't afford it.

...would it be weird to crowdfund my Christmas presents? I think people would donate to Kickstarter devoted to buying my nieces and nephews awesome toys, right? 

Monday, November 9, 2015

Beach Day

Ah, we meet again, Monday. This weekend was wonderful, as usual. On Saturday I went to Ruche's event, Sip N' Shop Holiday, at their warehouse with my friend Casey, and it was fantastic. I got to see their first retail space, The Shop at 131, which meant seeing a selection of gorgeous Ruche and Threadsence pieces in person. There was also pizza and beer from some of my favorite local places (Two Saucy Broads Pizza and Bootleggers Brewery), plus booths full of beautiful clothes and accessories from other local stores and brands. I resisted the urge to buy a million things, but I did end up picking up a sweet little leather pouch from Share And Do Good. As much as I like to complain about living in Orange County sometimes, I can't deny that I live by some amazing businesses.

The rest of the day was mostly spent watching Master of None with my friend Adam. I am in love with that show now and already finished the season last night. When I wasn't binge watching yesterday, I was getting breakfast and spending the afternoon at the beach with Jon. We're always looking for free things to do (since we're both broke as hell) and it finally cooled down enough to sit by the water and read together. I wore this lovely vintage dress that I picked up while I was in Portland a few months ago and this new (to me) cardigan that I got from Schoola, my new obsession. If you're unfamiliar, Schoola is an online thrift store that donates money to schools. When you request a bag to be sent to you to fill with clothes, you can choose which school to donate 40% of the sales. Cute clothes and supporting a good cause? It's a win-win for everyone. P.S. If you use my referral link, we each get $20 in credit. 

Thursday, October 29, 2015


I don't have too much time to write, but here's one of my new favorite outfits that I wore to work yesterday. I don't think I've owned anything with a turtleneck since I was a kid, but I couldn't resist this sweet lavender dress. I love that it fits right in with my wardrobe, but is still a tad different from anything I own. My favorite part of this outfit, though, is the Margot Tenenbaum pin from Andsmile Studio. I've been wanting to buy a pin from this shop for a while now, ever since I discovered it on Etsy, and I finally caved and let my love for Wes Anderson dictate my purchases. I got this one and a Steve Zissou one, and I'm probably going to have to buy the X-Files ones soon as well. They're too perfect.

There's a lot of exciting stuff going on right now at work and outside of work, and I can't wait to tell you more when I have more time. I'm finally starting to feel like my post-college funk is going away a little (a year and a half later), and I couldn't be happier.

Monday, October 26, 2015


The ratio of the amount of times I've worn this dress to the amount of times I've posted pictures of it on the blog is a little ridiculous. I think I've only posted it once, yet it gets worn almost weekly. I'd wear it every day if that were socially acceptable. Actually, maybe I should just do that...

I'll be daydreaming about wearing this dress around a park and just a great weekend in general while I'm back at work today. I had a ton of fun getting ice cream and antiquing with my best friend and then bonding with my co-workers at Oktoberfest and brunch. Let's just say the mimosas were truly bottomless this weekend. Jon and I also watched Beasts of No Nation on Netflix, which I...did not enjoy. I was so focused on watching a Netflix originally movie that will most likely be nominated for Oscars, that I didn't really think about the fact that it was going to be about children brutally murdering people. Not really my thing.

Wednesday, October 21, 2015

Things that caught my eye this week #47

It's been far too long since I've scoured Etsy for some adorable items, but the time has finally come again. Here's some handmade and vintage items that have caught my eye recently:

It's no surprise that I think this cat tunic from Ro en Art belongs in my closet:

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